A wedding officiant can make or break your ceremony. An uncaring or unprofessional officiant can sometimes spoil the whole day. Even so, when it comes to finding an officiant, many couples simply focus on two things:
– Are you available on our date?
– How much is your fee?
So, if I may, I would like to suggest an approach to choosing an officiant.
Spend some time talking with your prospective officiant. Does she/he sound nice? Easy to work with? Does she/he have a pleasant speaking voice? Is there a photo of the person that you can view – perhaps online? Is the officiant focused on pleasing you, or will you be expected to “do as you’re told?” Does the officiant have any objections to your location, music plans, plans for pictures or video, etc. What experience does this person have, and can you get references if you want them? Some officiants are basically traditional Christian ministers – others like myself are interfaith ministers, that perform the ceremony of your choosing. It’s not a matter of one being better than the other – but only of matching where you’re coming from with your officiant’s style, and the ceremony offered.
Regardless of background the words she/he will speak over you are lifetime words and need to fit for the two of you. The ceremonies she/he offers should be words you want spoken over you. The ceremony fitting your life style, having freedom to add things that make this day special for the two of you.
I hope this helps. Choosing the officiant is a big decision with important consequences.
Your officiant and your ceremony are the two key components in your entire day, and the least expensive of all.
I’d like to say one thing about the issue of price. Keep your perspective. Think about the total cost of your wedding ... if you save $100. on your officiant by shopping around, how significant will that be in five or ten years? Remember, it’s not like renting a car. You need to invest some time in the interview process – but in the end, you’ll be glad you did. Not all officiants are created equal. Good luck and best wishes for your big day! If I can help you, please call me.
Here's an example of part of my ceremony:
Real love is something beyond the warmth and glow, the excitement and romance of being deeply in love. It is caring as much about the welfare
and happiness of your marriage partner as about your own. But real love is not total absorption in each other; it is looking outward in the same direction – together. Love makes burdens lighter, because you divide them. It makes joys more intense because you share them. It makes you stronger so you can reach out and become involved with life in ways you dared not risk alone.
When we speak of love we are not speaking of love, as this world knows it, that love is selfish and often subject to change. The love we want in this union is not based on feelings but rather on a decision to see one another and treat one another as valuable and precious all the days of your lives. May this love be the law by which your marriage is conducted and fulfilled.
About Pastor Weber
I am an ordained, licensed, non-denominational minister, pastor,
chaplain and officiant, who specializes in beautiful wedding
ceremonies. As your officiant It is my commitment to help create the
ceremony of your dreams. Often times the wedding is less formal. I
travel to parks in the Loveland, Colorado area. I have been known to
climb a mountain, and ride a horse, motorcycle, ATV, or aerial tram to
get to my weddings. Lots of lovely weddings have taken place by the
fireplace in a home and in a back yard. I will travel to surrounding
areas, from my hometown of Loveland, to perform your wedding at your
honeymoon location.
I
started performing weddings in 1987 as a favor to my daughter. It
turned out to be so enjoyable, being part of uniting couples, that I
continued doing more and more weddings. I am licensed and ordained with
Happy Feet Ministries. I attended two years of Chaplain School and one
year of Ministers Training school. I worked as a Chaplain for Hospice
for nearly 3 years.
Please visit my website at www.happyfeetweddings.com to learn more about my services. I will also be at the Lionscrest Manor's Spring Bridal Showcase on March 22nd from Noon to 3 pm. I hope to see you there!
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